Eminem’s, “Love the Way You Lie”

Have you ever done something you regretted, only to say you would never do it again and when everything seems perfect, you fall back down and do the same crap again? Marshall Bruce Mathers III (aka, Eminem) understands this cycle very well. He has struggled with drug abuse and other problems for many years, and recently he as sobered up entirely – even claiming to have belief and pray to God. Many people may judge him as a hypocrite; however, I would warn against that type of slander. Consider his 2010 album release entitled “Recovery,”
the title says it all. He is being totally honest about his recovery and millions of people are hearing his story and learning from his experiences.

Two songs by Eminem need to be mentioned: “Not Afraid” and “Love the Way You Lie”

From “Not Afaid” we learn alot about Marshall (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j5-yKhDd64s&ob=av2e) I hope you can forgive me, the music video would not embed, but I do have a link. I strongly suggest you listen to these songs while reading the blog. Here are part of the lyrics of “Not Afraid”

And I just can’t keep living this way
So starting today, I’m breaking out of this cage
I’m standing up, Imma face my demons
I’m manning up, Imma hold my ground
I’ve had enough, now I’m so fed up
Time to put my life back together right now

It was my decision to get clean, I did it for me
Admittedly I probably did it subliminally for you
So I could come back a brand new me, you helped see me through
And don’t even realise what you did,

We would have to be blind to not see this as his conversion to God! Concerning the song itself: Melodically – this song is amazing. Lyrically – this song is amazing. Eminem took his music to a completely new level, he is no longer asking the real Slim Shady to stand up – it is no longer his alter ego standing up! He is standing up himself and by coming back a “brand new” man, there is so much similarity to 2 Corinthians 5:17 – “If anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! if anyone is found in Christ, the old man is dead, and behold the new man lives.” Marshall is turning away from the demons and realizing that people have helped him through and he is “Not Afraid to take a stand” because “we walk this road together,” this is about reconciliation of people! And this is exactly what the next verse in 2 Cor.5:19 is, “God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation.”

I now turn towards the original song I wanted to talk about, “Love the Way You Lie” (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uelHwf8o7_U&ob=av2e)

[Woman, Chorus]
just gonna stand there and watch me burn
that’s alright because i like the way it hurts
just gonna stand there and hear me cry
that’s alright because i love the way you lie
i love the way you lie

[Man’s Response]
i can’t tell you what it really is
i can only tell you what it feels like
and right now it’s a steel knife in my windpipe
i can’t breathe but i still fight while i can fight
as long as the wrong feels right it’s like i’m in flight
high off of love drunk from my hate
it’s like i’m huffin’ paint and i love it the more i suffer, i suffocate
and right before i’m about to drown, she resuscitates me, she f@%#^# hates me
and i love it, wait, where you goin’?
i’m leavin’ you, no you ain’t come back
we’re runnin’ right back, here we go again
so insane, cause when it’s goin’ good its goin’ great
i’m superman with the wind in his back, she’s Lois Lane
but when its bad its awful, i feel so ashamed i snap
whose that dude? i don’t even know his name
i laid hands on her
i never stoop so low again
i guess i don’t know my own strength

[Woman, chorus]

[Man’s Response]
you ever love somebody so much you can barely breathe
when you with em you meet and neither one of you even know what hit em
got that warm fuzzy feeling
yeah them chills used to get em
now you’re getting f@%#^’ sick of lookin’ at em
you swore you’d never hit em, never do nothin’ to hurt em
now you’re in each other’s face spewin’ venom in your words when you spit em
you push pull each other’s hair
scratch claw hit em throw em down pin em
so lost in the moments when you’re in em
it’s the face that’s the culprit, controls ya both,
so they say it’s best to go your seperate ways
guess that they don’t know ya
cause today that was yesterday
yesterday is over, it’s a different day
sound like broken records playin’ over
but you promised her next time you’ll show restraint
you don’t get another chance
life is no nintendo game, but you lied again,
now you get to watch her leave out the window
guess that’s why they call it “window pane”

[Woman, Chorus]

[Man’s Response]
now i know we said things, did things, that we didn’t mean
and we fall back into the same patterns, same routine
but your temper’s just as bad as mine is, you’re the same as me
when it comes to love you’re just as blinded
baby please come back, it wasn’t you, baby it was me
maybe our relationship isn’t as crazy as it seems
maybe that’s what happens when a tornado meets a volcano
all i know is i love you too much to walk away though
come inside, pick up the bags off the sidewalk
don’t you hear sincerity in my voice when i talk?
told you this is my fault, look me in the eyeball
next time i’m pissed i’ll aim my fist at the drywall
next time there won’t be no next time
i apologize even though i know its lies
i’m tired of the games i just want her back
i know i’m a liar if she ever tries to f@%#^$’ leave again
i’ma tie her to the bed and set this house on fire

Is this a love song? Absolutely no. What kind of song is this then? This is a song about domestic violence. The last verse the man sings really captures the entire essence of what Marshall is trying to communicate. It shows the “crazy cycle.” Here is a truncated version of what is happening:

We did bad things -> your just as bad as me -> ok, it wasn’t you, just me, come back -> relationship ain’t that bad -> come back -> it’s my fault -> I won’t hit you next time, just the drywall -> no, no, there won’t be a next time -> I’m sorry -> I’m tired of games -> (man’s thinking) if she tries to leave again, I’m gonna tie her to the bed and set the house on fire -> then it leads into the chorus of the woman singing, “your just gonna stand there and watch me burn?” … well, “I do love the way you lie.”

This is NOT a love song. Look back at the first song I talked about Not Afraid. Marshall is standing up and he wants people to join him. This next song Love the Way you Lie is part of the action of Not Being Afraid. We need to take a stand, we need to hold hands, we need to speak out against domestic violence. But we also need to realize that abuse will not stop unless the abuser is not afraid to stand and hold hands with people around him or her. I hope these songs now make a little more sense. I know how easy it is to just love a song because it has an awesome beat, harmony, melody, etc. and Eminem does a phenomenal job of this, but these songs go so much further than this. I would love to hear your thoughts on my interpretations. Do you agree? Let me know. Thanks.


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